How have any of you worked toward the goal of a spouse returning to bed?
I'll share my story, bearing in mind also that there is no OW in my situation. There might still be something to draw from it. Initially after the S, my H would not be intimate. He said he didn't want to give me false hope. He hardly saw me, for about 4 months. During those first 4 months, I kept contact light by just sending him friendly emails asking him about work or asking im for advice.
If he did see me, he only kissed me lightly or hugged me. Then I started asking to help out at the house so he'd come over and I'd dress appealing. I also offered to massage his back which he liked. His primary LL is physical touch. That started us being intimate again.
