thanks for the support. I don't understand these WAS who never really move out. I guess it's a form of cake-eating, but I'd want to have my stuff WITH me. My W left the suitcase she always travels with - why, so she has an excuse to come back and get it?
I was thinking today of the men my W has been involved with (before I met her). Realized that she always ended up with "mentor" types and was never really able to sustain those relationships, which is why I was her first serious relationship. Current OM is definitely in the mentor category. Just putting my mind to productive use while running ... Of course I'd love to just have a run when I feel good to be outside and don't think about M/R or W at all!