If you are talking about the 'talk' being about divorcing, then you sit and listen, do a lot of "I can understand how you see it that way" and "Sorry you feel that way.". You can also add in that you don't want this divorce, that you can picture your life differently, but that you won't fight it. I am sure your DB coach has even better advice.
I am so sorry about that email, listing your faults. I have been the target of "Here's what's wrong with you" many times. It hurts and I can see the resentment (almost disgust) in H's face. With your illness (I am so sorry about your Lyme), that makes it even worse for him to throw that in your face. Remember, he is hurting and lashing out at you. Much of what he says, he says out of anger, and it just isn't the truth.
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. The way he is acting now he reminds me of a bucking colt. He has no remorse, then this new cruelty, cold as ice (he was usually rather nice and gentle). Now I just don`t know if HE is worth it. I don`t even like him anymore, let alone love. He was always somewhat introverted and emotionally distant, but had a lot of good in him too. It`s like some evil twin has replaced my H.
Yes, ma'am. I hear ya on this one. Its horribly painful, them being distant, cold, uncaring. HUGS
