Thanks for advice lwb. I dont think that it occurred to h that he was doing that and when I said that he was he said I was turning the tables. Told him he was worried about his collection and I was connected to the music etc because of all the times we had intimate moments while it was playing in the background. I think that sunk in?
right now money is such a huge issue ie. there is none and OW does not have a computer. It is so easy to cave into what they want and they know it. What felt strange is that a week ago I would have sat in the corner crying and instead I got in my car and drove off feeling okay. The hug was a big surprise. So easy to set myself up thinking it meant more than it was but it was more than he has given in a long time. So in the past week we have gone from head pat, stroking my newly pierced ear to a hug.
counsellor asked me a question yesterday, she said is there life after an affair and i said YES.So she said problem with my h is that he knows he can leave and i will hang on. Food for thought but i would still give him the beneift of the doubt.
