This time I am gonna say it loud and clear so you can hear it.
Wake The F Up. I told you your actions/reactions are exactly the same as they were when you were failing at the marriage. EXACTLY!!
I will say it again IT'S NOT WORKING!! I know it is hard to break out of it. It seems impossible. Trust me no matter what happens you are going to be better from all this. You needed to walk thru this for some reason. Call it gods plan, call it fate, call it dumb luck.
I will call it Full on 110% DAM! With Queen B leading the way.
Right now. Lemme say that again RIGHT NOW... Is your time to shine. You have to pull a 180% and stick to it like glue. Or at least some soggy fly paper. You still have time. You are going to screw it up. I assure you you will.
#1... NO DATING!!! For the slow people in class when I say NO DATING I mean NO/NONE/NOTA/NOTHING. Am I making myself clear? Can you hear me. Say it with me "I will not date" This rule applies all the time. You have 1 year from the day he filed the paper to strictly adhere to this rule. I will not tolerate and slip up's here. Trust me when I say "You will thank me for that advise"! Any questions? I expect the answer to be no!!
#2.. Stop the contact. Right now.. Stop it. You talk about nothing other than the kids. No policy discussion.. AT ALL. The kids, how they are doing, what they are doing. You do so in a upbeat manner. The kids are all you want to talk about. You are happy about talking about the kids. Kids come first in everything you do. The only time they don't come first is NO DATING.
#3.. The day you get the papers I want you to QUIETLY!! talk to a lawyer. A lawyer I am not. If the lawyer wants to attack.. Go see another one. Do not fall prey to the vicious attack. If they listen to your story and start talking about PI's and nailing to the wall. Stand up and walk out. You will prefer a woman lawyer here. NOT a divorced one! Remember no attack! Attack=bad. You are to not let on that you have even spoke to a lawyer until you and said lawyer have a plan of response. Notice no attack!
Ok so lets recap..
NO DATING <<<<< You see that right?!?
Kids First/Talk only about Kids.
See a lawyer.... QUIETLY!!!!
I am trusting you here. Your past record sucks. Its OK. I knew you would do it. Show me you can follow this plan. I can't guarantee that I can fix it all. I can guarantee that I will make you a better person that he would be a fool to leave.
As crazy as you are right now I know he would be a fool to walk away.
People only listen when they want to.
You ready yet?
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
