You are not ready emotionally to date anyone right now. The first guy that says nice things to you or scratches an itch just right will sway you into a relationship that you probably should not go into. Also, if you have any hopes of your H coming back, dating sends the wrong message. He may date while you are separated, but that does not mean you should also. Two wrongs dont make a right.
I see from your age and years together/married that it is very unlikely that you have experienced adult life on your own. For at least a year, work on yourself without the intention of finding and getting settled down in another R. Trust me - I went from the age 18 to 35 without ever having a girlfriend. I had a fabulous life by doing things with male friends and mostly by myself. I was a free man able to do as I wished. You need to get the thought out of your mind that you need someone else.
Work on yourself and be happy with your kids for a while.
