I was reading this thread and wow let me just say that alot of the stuff that you are going through I am too. It has been only a month for me and she has left me overseas with the children.
I too wish for a good nights sleep.
I say hang in there keep doing things for yourself, I know that is helping me.
And who knows in the end all things are possible.
Me 36 W 36 S 15 D 12 M 16 Bomb Nov 07 WAS Feb 08 My Sitch http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1376213&page=0&fpart=1
Lodo, not sure why they say D is a good call. But they are basically telling W that D is a good call. Probably just to make her feel good about her decision and support her as a friend etc.
Eh, my W's friends and family tell my W "do whatever makes you happy." Think they'd say that if their S was involved?
Keep up your PMA - sounds like you're doing pretty good despite the heartache. I'm finding that some mini-weekend trips are good for the heart, and if you're in Cali, the flowers are all coming out. Never thought I'd make a trip to go look at flowers, but why not? I'm heading to Joshua Tree this weekend.
I really empathize with the confusion and sense of loss / unfairness about it all. Lodo has some wise words; I was applying them to my sitch. Yeah, restful sleep isn't usually part of what gets served up around here. I feel pretty exhausted most of the time because it's physically and emotionally draining. Good for you to be taking care of yourself. I'm not sure if this helps you or not, but I find that I can get myself worked up into a real knot when I start thinking too far ahead. Sometimes, that means even thinking about tomorrow is too far, depending on how I'm doing.
You are doing okay even though you are going through hell. Hang in there, my friend.
Day by day. I can't work on my M if I can't fix what is wrong with me. Granted it takes two but there are things I have been in denial about. Just happy I have been able to come to the realization of these things and am currently working on fixing them for good. Thank God.
sigh* mornings suck for me. All I wake up in a cold sweat, I have dreamt about her three nights in a row..... guh dang W, haunting me in my sleep, lol
Sounds like you're starting to make some good observations about yourself - just remember that no matter what happens you'll come out of this as a better person. And a lighter one from the sounds of it!
Hard part is knowing that you can fix yourself but she may not work on herself. It takes two. This is where I'm at - I've been DBing my butt off and she is in complete avoidance mode.
Gee, someone else has those cold sweats? And here I thought it was just me ...
Well she did send me a email that was talk about prep for the house. In which she listed several options of what we could do to prep the house to sell. One option being she and I could do things together and other options being hire someone or she or I could do it by ourselves. She said she didn't care. I am not going to read to much into it but it was different from a few weeks ago when she said she didn't want to spend any kind of time with me.
Also funny maybe once again I am reading to much into this but I said I had to get going after dropping mail off and she said immediately following "Yeah I gotta get going as well."
ughh wish there was just a path of easy mind reading but she didn't look like she got much sleep lately either.
Probably me reading to much into it anyways back to work.
meh whatever happens, happens. I just don't feel like over thinking anything anymore. My heart hurts to much for that. I expect nothing after today. I am just working on what I can. I probably read more into it then I should of.
In regards to stuff for getting the house ready hard on me or not she can step up and act her age for a change. She isn't gonna get babied. If she wants to hire that can be money out of her pocket. Otherwise she can do what she needs.
Anyhow have a nice evening folks. Hope the night goes fast and fun for all. God Bless
You're in it for the long haul now!