I have for all of you, a question. A question about myself and how my post D relationships seem to be going. I'm looking forward to hearing your comments, input, insight, concerns and candor.
I've been post D for 3+ years. I've dated, short term and fairly long term, I've also spent the majority of that time being single and being Dad to my girls. I've continued to educate myself on this post D life and also continued to remind myself of all of the tidbits of knowledge I've gleened from my years on the DB boards, so suffice to say, I'm not a newbie to the entire package. (at least not in my view)
Here's the issue;
As I enter into a relationship, I find myself feeling different. Different than what I recall when dating previous to M. As I'm plugging along, I find myself asking if I'm supposed to feel different. Am I damaged goods for not getting nervous, jittery, all consumed or having sweaty palms when I meet a potential R partner or even after a relationship takes place for awhile?
My thoughts range from; I'm cautious with my emotions. I've developed confidence through this DBing process that I never had before and it is simply less stressful than the past. (Not to the side of arrogance, trust me, I have a mirror) I'm simply older (47) and more mature, where I'm more comfortable in any setting... or?
I am currently in a new R and am curious if my level of emotion is common? I read others posting about their R life post D and see where the excitement is robust. What's up with me?! Is it as simple as I just haven't found "the one"?
I'm curious if my experience is common. I'm sure all of the listed things play a role, I'm just not totally sure how to read myself.
