I made a comment about this story to him and he agreed that that was a problem we had and we need to stop. I told him my life continues, I am moving on and wanted to know what I meant.
I said, "you know I'll wait for you, but not lay there and be unhappy, I am having fun, making plans, go out, enjoy my kids, I am moving on" He said he sees that.
Anyway, I know not of all you agree with this discussion but it felt good. First of all we touched THE issue. We aknowledged we are re-evaluating our sitch, BOTH OF US. He aknowledged I am giving him space and freedom to decide, he seemed sad but relieved in some way that it was all out in the open between us although he didn't talk much. He called later and I was on DBing mode and happy and he asked if he will take the kids to their T on Sat. We agreed he would. Already spoke to my T and she told me "he is paralyzed of fear, that's all, in the beginning I was very against Recons, I am not anymore, he is very nice guy, just confused and we need to help him out" (I have another story you need to listen). She said, I'll talk to him on Sat, see how he feels...
Later my friend whose kid had the party on Sat called and told me that her H called my H (very good friends of ours-godparents of our D, vacation every year together etc) and told my H that my kids looked horrible on Sat." You see it yourself, K has changed, no excuses for you man, sorry I am harsh but your kids should be your first priority, and BTW, time is not on your side" He said thanks for telling me, K told me already, I will decide soon...
I had not planned it this way and until up to recently I didn't allow anyone to talk to him, so he wouldn't feel pressure. My friend didn't ask me. The timing was weird, we'll see...
