Hi Debra, I can totally relate to your pain, but my husband just revealed to me that he has been having an affair with our good friend who has been to our house with her husband every weekend and has gotten so close to my children that they call her their 2nd mother. Affairs are not about physical attributes. This woman is 10 years older with wrinkles and is a grandmother. I thought he would have wanted a much younger woman.Even if your marriage may have had issues or if your spouse tries to blame you for his or her wanderings most of the time the affair has little to no substance.They may say they were in love with this person, this person understood them, etc.. But it is bull! It was instant gratification, and most of the time it does not last. This is not about you and my H has come home. We who decide to take this spouse back because we want our marriages have a lot to overcome, but I believe that it will be worth it if both are committed. Good luck to you!
