Call your C. Go to your al-anon meetings. Quit trying to control the situation.
If you really want to make a last ditch effort, do this: let go and quit trying to change how STBX feels.
Until you quit trying to run the show, STBX will NOT reconsider his choices.
So, again, your last ditch effort: quit trying to run the show.
Maybe a year or two from the time you really do that, STBX might take stock, maybe not. Taking STBX to therapy with you will certainly not prompt him to do so. These efforts are giving him more reason NOT to reconsider his choices than anything else. Leave him alone.
Call your C. Go to Al-anon. Take another vacation at the hospital if you need to. Connect with your sister. Get out of that house, it is not healthy for you to live with STBX's family. Take care of YOURSELF. Become the person YOU want to be, then see who you want to be with. Now is not the time for you to focus on STBX or any other male for that matter.
Quit going in for the drama. Quit feeding it by coming here. Take the steps you know how to take to take care of yourself. Now.
