I think OT shared a good way to communicate with H.

I do also remember that when things started to get better, those angry/bitter feelings started popping up. Because during the sitch we are set to "crisis thinking" and we have to put a wall up on those feelings temporarily in order to accomplish our primary goal.

I think for most, this is going to be a normal stage, but if we DO talk to our WAS about it, we should really give it time and think about what we want to talk about. Are all these things really necessary? or can some of these things be let go.

You do still want to choose your battles wisely. So while I think it is a good idea to have a little chat, don't unload a ridiculous amount of emotions on him. ;\) I know you won't though.

Also, do you think talking with him about it will make you feel better? What do you think you need to do to make this anger go away?

Me 33 H 34 S9 S3
M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs)
EA/PA 1/2006
DB 5/2006
H wants D 6/2006
H wants ME 8/2006
H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006
H erased OW off phone! 2/2007

"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."