You are doing great. Keep working on yourself. Stay focused on yourself... keep healing.
Your W seems to be a bit in LA LA land. Hopefully she comes down to earth soon... and she just may!
Do NOT add a child into the mix right now. If your W thinks that having a baby will bring you two closer... it may in some regards, but it's not the proper progression for getting closer. Like Just_Me is saying and Sara... Don't do that. You have many bridges to cross before you bring ANOTHER human into your family.
Telling her this could get you negative results. You are going to have to be very gentle about it. Perhaps THERAPY (at least someone objective) would be a real good way for you to discuss the steps you two need to take and why a baby would not be a good thing right now. Let the dust settle first... see what new "grass" grows between you two.
Keep up the good work. Stay focused on your issues. Keep healing yourself. Never lose sight of that!
