Wow, I stopped by for some party food ideas and had to duck the 2x4's being swung at poor Jeff! just kidding sort of....it's all good stuff but Jeff, are you feeling like a pinyata?
DH, I read a post you made about how much you are helping 'off board' and being available 24/7 to help others. While that is quite admirable and so very wonderful of you, I am concerned that it is also getting you so sucked in to so many dilemmas that you don't have time to come up for fresh air and fresh perspective. Focusing on these issues of yours and everyone elses so much can very well be affecting your physical and mental health. Take care of you.
I would also like to recommend acupuncture. dar asked about it and I just posted this on her thread - I've used acupuncture and will say that it does work. When I signed up I was looking for help with female problems and back pain, and was pleasantly surprised at how much it helped by rounding out the mind and body together. It definitely helped me with depression, anger, pms, mood swings, pain, circulation, headaches. I know it sounds weird, but I could tell the acupuncturist what my issues were and they could design the treatment to address those specifics and I'd walk out feeling better. There were some days I looked like a porcupine! It was also a pleasant surprise to find out my insurance covered part of the cost. Be sure to check with your insurance, mine had to be worded a certain way to be covered. Of course exercise and nutrition are important as well.
I also agree that if your W is yelling and that is unacceptable behavior you should state your opinion and ask her to stop or follow you to another room to address it in private rather than in front of the kids. Does that sound familiar? I said that on one of your older threads.
kaching, 2 cents, leave it in the take one if you need it bowl if you can't use it.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
I am sorry I came down so hard on you. (((HUGS))) Maybe you can shift your focus to getting yourself happy, working on your own "stuff", putting yourself in a good place, and THEN we can talk about W stuff?
I am really proud you got the number to look into counseling. Did you call it yet?? I totally understand wanting that to be a private call.
I'm glad you already have two bicycles!! If we are ever in the same spot we can go bicycling together!!!
Hey Jeff..I seem to have started something, but I'm glad, becuase you need some help here! I think you were brave to at least put the number in your cell phone.. I know, I know, your a bloke and of a certain age at that, you'd rather stick boiling pins in your eyes than go for C.. but needs must, when the devil vomits in your kettle, as they say in England (well, I say). So, you just need to phone them now, and I guess it will be a free service, so even better! You need to break the cycle you are trapped in, and that is how I see it. Ever decreasing circles...
Sounds like yur R has been slowly withering for many years then...like alot of us here, I guess what your describing is a communication breakdown. You are trapped in patterns of relating to each other. Thats why I suggested showing a different emotion to her than indifference.. cry or shout back or laugh in her face! Or something!? But, maybe just phone the EAP for now and be brave. We'd all be proud of you !!
Ali xxx PS: I hope the test results are ok if they did arrive today??? ((((Jeff)))) ___________________ Me: 37 H: 34 T: 9 years ILYBINILWY: 2 Nov 07 Own apartment: 26 Jan 08 Depression confirmed!
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
(((((Lisa))))(((((Ali)))))(((((T)))))(((((WCW))))) Doing ok today. I'm waiting for the doc to call back. I'm going to wait until I have that info before I call EAP, for two reasons. One, I don't want to get myself into schedule conflicts, and secondly because I think that info from the doc could be useful in going forward with the C, since I think it may all be interrelated.
WCW, I've mentioned to W taht I thought some of what she said in front of the kids was inappropriate. She, naturally, disagreed. So, I try to limit her opportunities, since I can't change her actions.
Transformer, we have a whole stable of bikes in the garage. We've kept bikes as the kids have grown, handy for cousins visiting! But, not counting the ones I can't fit on we have tree mountain bikes (two older boys and W), and a hybrid that tends to a road bike (W). Presently one of the mountain bike does not have clip in pedals, so that's the one I can ride. I think I wall get myself a hybrid here pretty soon. Not sure about clip ins, I have this painful vision of getting the foot attached to my bad knee stuck, and having the bike twisyt it clean off! (Probably an exeggeration, but you get the idea!)
Ali, I am not quite sure about boiling needles, but I think I would go for the plain room temerature ones! I know that there is no rational reason for my reluctance, but, as you said, I think it is programmed in!
Lisa, that was a great hug! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!
Guess what? We tricked you into giving us the info about the nipples... No advantage there anymore, sweetheart! Express delivery to Athens...
Sock routine? Well, let me think... well, have you heard of the kalamata green olive routine? No? Pitty, it requires exceptional skills of course but maybe, just maybe I will teach you someday...
