Piecing...gosh this is hard ll

[butterflymom]

sounds like he did want some sort of affirmation to me. It's unbelievable how fragile they are when they come home.

We need to reassure them that we are going to be there without doing too much pushing to talk about the relationship and where it is heading etc. We need to be a good listening and encouraging ear without being pushy. It's a delicate balance.

He's right. You can't help him. He does have to work through it on his own and I think that you could actually let him know that you are aware that the work is his to do, but that you will be there in whatever way he needs you to be even if it's just a shoulder to cry on or whatever. I think him just knowing that you are committed to the marriage for a long time will do a lot for him right now.

They know the damage they have done and the havoc they have created and it's hard for them to imagine that after all that you are still around to help pick up the pieces.

BFM