Yes fish, I have found detachment to be very difficult. When we were headed for D it was easy for me...now I am the same as you and I feel vulnerable.
I read a little of your story when you were in the separated forum. From what I remember you did a great job of GAL. Don't stop doing that! Maybe you shouldn't go out as much...but you should still do things that you enjoy separate from your wife. It gives both of you space and allows you to continue to grow independently.
I know you want this fixed and you want things to be "normal" fast. BUT, she wants to move slow and so you have to move at her pace. Patience is key. Things are definitely moving in the right direction for you....just give her time.
