I know that I could live a higher quality of life than I am.
I have been trying to hard to piece I think and need to step back and or shake things up.
I really don't set any expecatations for him I would like him to work through this himself and then work with me to build our M together. If he chooses not to do the work needed I'll have to make my decisions as to what i need to do for me but I can not excpect him to do what I want it has to be what we want.
I have accepted the fact that he does not like to talk R never has but he does have to be held accountable for what he is doing to the R by being avoidant if that is what he's actually doing. Is he? i don't know. He has had quite a while now to work the connection thing out without any pushing from me.The question i keep pondering is has it been long enough. It has been for me but, then im'e not the one with the issue.
I would say hidden to a point because we have talks of R very seldom and I don't push R talk because he does need time to work on his MLC, and we know that it has no timeline.
I do bring up things every few months as to let him know that I feel he is still having trouble and that I still need more from our M than he is giving me but I do that very suttely.
as far as frustration goes,Women love to talk and I vent to some very good friends who just listen. And cry by myself.
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
