he promised me he hasn't cheated but that he has wanted to. and he's trying to do the right thing by leaving me before that happens. (gee thanks!)
Gee, what a nice guy. These MLCers will do or say anything to make themselves not look bad. Guess what? The guilt will still get to him.
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2 days ago he moved out. he said this will give him the chance to figure out what he wants
Now use this time to work on YOU. Were you walking on eggshells around him the last couple of months? That has happened to a lot of us. If you were, as crazy as it sounds, be thankful you don't have to live with the person that he is now. He is not the same person, nope, the old H has been snatched by an alien and replaced with a selfish look a like.
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his entire family is on my side and thinks he's being a child.
Be thankful for this. But don't be surprised if some of them start to lean his way. Blood is thicker than water. My H's family was ALL on my side in the beginning, but some of them in time started to stick by his side even though they know what he is doing is wrong. Again, blood is thicker than water.
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besides what's happening between us he is shirking his responsibilities at work, which is his family business.
Yep, same here. My H also works for a family run business. When he left he told me that he didn't like his job anymore. It used to be such a passion of his.
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after reading michelle's book and talking to one of the counselors my head is a little clearer. i've stopped the constant crying and begging and pleading.
Good, you are on a good start.
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but i am still miserable. waiting around for him to figure out what he wants is driving me crazy!! i've tried to get involved with some new hobbies and my friends are being really supportive but unfortunately don't live in the same state as me. i moved to new york for him and all of our friends are really his friends.
I think a lot of us struggle with this. Standing for your M shouldn't be the same as waiting around. Use this time to find yourself again and grow. Do things that you always wanted to do. If you don't mind me asking, I am also from NY. What part are you from? I am in the lower Hudson Valley area.
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part of me just wants to give up and move. i don't feel like i should stay in a relationship that makes me feel so bad about myself. the other part of me is freaking out thinking about how i can't live without him.
Only you can make this decision on whether you want to stand or not. You will know when you are truly done, and with you coming here, it shows you are not.
MLC unfortunately can take years. Some quicker than others. Many of us have been around here for a couple of years are more. It's a long rollercoaster ride.
Come here to vent, cry, etc. You will find a wealth of support here.
What else can you tell us about your sitch? Do you have kids? Do you work?
