Usually if one of us stays for dinner, we stay until the kids' bedtime and we both put them to bed. The kids sometimes have a hard time with it, but IMO it's a much less harder time than they would if THEY were the ones who had to go back and forth between the houses.
I am glad I don't have the house to myself when I'm not with the kids. Coming to the apartment becomes my alone time. I miss the kids, but I don't see reminders of them everywhere and it's "easier" to be alone a in a 900 sq ft 1-bedroom apt than a 2500+sq ft 4-bedroom house.
Our kids really have adjusted as well as they can to the given situation. It was really weird at first, and I had a hard time whenever he was around, but after about two weeks I made a decision to try to use our time together to rebuild. It coincided with me finding DB. We really do get along well, so it's not difficult. ie- we don't fight and never really have.
The kids know that he *might* come back, but that it's not likely. At first D6 said that she knew Daddy would come back but now she doesn't think he ever will. Very sad, but again, I think it's worked out well for the kids because it's giving them some adjusting time.
On my front, H called me at 8am this morning just to tell me some things that he could have waited to tell me when we all met at our health club at 9am and he was very chipper, too.
Me: 42/H: 37 T: 10 years/M: 8 D9, S8 Bomb: 7.23.07 Separated: 1.20.08 D Final 3.19.09 Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09