Hi there, I was posting on another forum. My H came home a little over a week ago after a 6 month separation. I knew it would have our work cut out for us. I feel so insecure and afraid. It's hard for me to believe that he is here to stay this time and that the OW is out of the picture. Then I let my thoughts get to me and wonder...is there someone else. My H says he is here to stay. He did bring his stuff with him and has applied for a job here. (he was in another state). He has also talked about not wanting to sell our home and taking it off the market. I just feel afraid. Trust has been damaged on both sides. My C said to give him a week or two to settle in before talking to him about C. We aren't talking about the R. We are just spending time together. I could really use some help.
LuvMyHusband Me: 41 H: 43 ch: 3 M: 7+ T: 10+ Bomb: EA 8/07, A over phone/net 10/07 Seperated: 9/07 H ended A/EA with OW again on 1/2008 Reconsile: 3/26/2008, H admitted PA
All your feelings are perfectly normal. This is what happens when the crisis passes and you are left with the damage. We could not solve this problem alone and were helped tremendously by going to a Retrouvaille weekend. Check the website, http://www.helpourmarriage.org for dates and a location near you. The weekend taught us the skills we needed to rebuild the trust, love and commitment. Good luck.
