Anyway, during the conversation she said that she has really been missing me and that she can't imagine life without us being together. She said she wants to come home in 2 weeks time to get back together...after this holiday with OM and his colleagues to France. I asked her if she's sure that's what she wanted and she said "yes, I have been thinking about it constantly".
I agree with your skepticism. I don't understand how she can be telling you she wants to be with you...but after this holiday with OM. That's the big sticking point. It's hard to reconcile, "wanting to be with you", and "after going on holiday with OM". But what can you do about it? There are really only two choices...just accept it or tell her that her actions aren't telling you that she's as fully invested in a relationship with you as her words would indicate.
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She even asked me to make an appointment with the fertility clinic.
I very very strongly encourage you not to do this. This woman has been out of the country seeing another man and she wants to jump right back into considering a baby with you? She might actually come back (or maybe the vacation will change her mind), but once back might start to think that OM was the greener grass. You don't want to have a baby in this situation. I don't think introducing a baby to a troubled relationship helps anything. Right now you aren't tied to her for life...add a baby into the mix and you will be. Don't put yourself into a position where you have to travel 1000 miles to see your kid. I would not be at all shy about expressing my reservations about this...especially since she can't even cancel this vacation with OM.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
