It's funny how you mention all of the examples of 180's I do every one of them!
Iv'e always had a PMA around H most of the time. I think it's time to distance myself again though as he apparently is just to comfortable with me to do the work he needs I feel.
I am working on redoing the basement. and also got a twin bed for the spare bedroom down there. I am going to start working on it this weekend.
CL, I do think I need to see a therapist again and soon as I have thoughts more and more of separarting. I wonder also about weather or not he's still depressed over OW and thats why he's having trouble. My take is all of these are factors.
Last night when I got home from both of my jobs H was very clingy. This is getting so it makes me mad because I think that he is trying to smooth it over so that he can continue with his behaviour until he decides what the he$$ he wants. At least thats what I feel. I was pleasant quiet but affectionate to a point. but still somewhat distant. My thought is to gradually distance my self so that he keeps wondering what im thinking and maybe starts working. And I can have fun and prepare myself for what ever.
Mat, look forward to hearing from you.
OH and as far as the book goes I have it and he thinks I read to many of those and he wouldn't touch it im sure. Maybe I'll leave it out and see what happens.
Yes he does need to start meeting my needs but feels at this time he can't.
I wonder if everything he is doing all of the time with his Mom is wearing on him too. He is her main caretaker, the one she calls for everything and I help as much as I can but he does the most. He has five siblings but only one helps much the rest don't even come a round. It also hasn't been that long since FIL passed so who knows there either.
WOW Im spewing all around here. SO many thoughts!
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
