I understand your feelings of betrayal and your your thoughts of escaping to a new place. We are so alike. Please don't panic. I agree with Kerry. Many D are busted at the last second. I am a sign language interpreter for the deaf and I was thinking yesterday about how the signs for suffer and patience are almost the same. I don't know if you read bowtech notes, here is the link. http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1097934&site_id=1#import
I don't agree with all of it, but scroll down and read where Live happy, Always agree, Be confident starts. Then read about the Special As If Attitude. I copied and pasted it to my word program, then changed some of the wording to fit my situation. I read it often.
I wrote my H a few days ago about how I don't appreciate him not informing my about things he has done like changing the registration on one of our cars to his name only. I said I see that we need to see SBT to help us with the D (he seems to want) to help us do it without hurting each other more. Also it would help the boys. He agreed to go. I am pulling away from him. I mentioned that I had a bad experience a few days ago(bad reaction to pain shot) He wanted me to tell him about it. I would like to, but honestly I can't. I told him I couldn't right now. I have to remember he is not here for me right now. I talked to friends about it. As I pull away, he is coming toward me. Weird, but true.
Try not to discuss the papers with him. Don't show him how hurt you are that he has filed them. Kerry is right, take them to a L. Please don't give up, get the As If Attitude! I know you can do it!
me 41 H 37 married 11 S10 S6 Bomb 11-21-07 he moved out 12-09-07