I'll be returning home within the next day or two. I'm preparing myself emotionally for the fact that he will be sleeping by himself, and that he has probably removed his wedding ring. I am surmising that I should not mention either new development and treat him like a friend who is staying with me.

How have any of you worked toward the goal of a spouse returning to bed? (Other than waiting until he decides that the time is right for him.) We will be sleeping in the same bed on the vacation - all of our accommodations have a single, King-sized bed.

Perhaps I should request the Moderator for a solution journal buddy. That way I could at least try to help someone whle I am receiving it during this difficult time.

Thanks in advance,
I'mstillhopeful but hope beginning to tiptoe away

Me: 59
H: 59
Together: 28 years
Married: 25 years in August
"There may be someone else" 12/26/07
H signed a one year lease 4/1/08
H moved out 5/11/08
H beginning to show a tiny amount of interest 7/5/08
Is it possible that he is courting me? 9/30/08