My story, please help

[GavinO]

Thought I'd update somewhat as advice and encouragement is always appreciated.

Went home yesterday after work, W had nipped back at some point as the outside light was on and the kitchen light was on. There was an ashtray in the lounge and part of a long rizla (for making a joint) the coffee cup (cup with some coffee and a spoon in) I left for W was still in the kitchen untouched.

The marriage certificate has gone from the study but the list of property is still in the table downstairs and the house details (for estate agent) is still in the kitchen.

Went to see some friends last night which was nice, only spoke about me and W for a bit and no one knows why she has gone for divorce, no one noticed any problems or issues and from what they understand the 'reasons' for the divorce are:

1) Not doing enough around the house.
2) Not spending time with her.

Not insurmountable problems I don't think?!?!?

W has not changed tack yet (still over and divorce) and she seems to be getting on as such but there are a few contradictions.

From her is no hint of us getting back together or her wanting to try or anything. She is out quite a bit and smoking and drinking quite a bit.

Is it a phase I wonder? My wife and best friend has turned inside out and upside down and is someone she it not (I know her, I have known her for 1/3 of our lives)

I'm gonna hang in there and keep improving myself, I have no idea what is going through her head or why she is like she is, i had a bad patch of 6 months or so and did almost nothing with her due to depression, maybe its her turn so to speak?!?!?

Thanks for the support guys and gals and again any advice on how to proceed would be appreciated. I am committed to my wife, marriage and relationship (she isn't lol) so not sure what to do in the circumstances.

Cheers

Gavin