Worried I found DB too late #2

[cw68]

Journaling: We all ended up going out to dinner tonight and it was a pretty good evening. Interesting how textbook so many of their (and ours, I suppose) patterns happen to be, you'll see later. I was chipper and upbeat when he got home. Because of all the stress of the last couple of weeks with the house and now with the guests, I told him I just couldn't stick around tonight to help. He's taking the next two days off, so we can do the cooktop tomorrow and I need a break. H said he didn't mind and understood.

Well, then H wanted to go look at a motorcycle tonight that he was interested in. There's another he's looking at again tomorrow and will probably buy it, but this was a better deal. Interestingly, he just planned on seeing it, didn't ask me if I could give him a ride to it since if he bought it he'd be driving it home, not to mention what he'd do with the kids. I didn't take it as being taken for granted, but rather that he included me in the plans. He even asked me if I had found a helmet and recommended a store at which he bought stuff at today. To me that's a big move because when he had a cycle before I never rode on it, not even a single time. So this guy doesn't want to plan any social activities alone with me but obviously plans on taking me riding. I'll take it! So we went out to dinner before he was going to look at the bike. It was a really good evening. I worked it, trying to be interesting, asking him lots of open ended questions and throwing other good DBing in there. The motorcycle thing ended up not happening.

(Hound, he forgot that Sunday was Easter. We aren't religious, so it's more of a fun Easter basket kind of day. He asked if I was doing anything for them and I just said I was, but didn't tell him. Then I asked if he wanted to get together for brunch or something, then said that he'd probably want to see the kids with their baskets. H said that it would ruin his plans since he was going to go to the casinos in Tahoe and watch the bball games. Here's where the pre-DBing, old CW would have said something like, "Well, I guess you can choose what's more important." or some other more judgmental, cynical thing. But I didn't say a word and he decided to come over for brunch. Bummer, though, he will miss the kids finding eggs.)

IMO, it was pretty obvious that it was a good night. I was wondering what tomorrow would bring because my sister and family won't return until later, he's got the day off and I'm at the apartment tonight. No need to worry, when I went to leave he asked what time in the morning I was coming by because he thought we could all hang out tomorrow for the day. Instead of meeting at home, I suggested we meet at the gym. (180. Well used to be a 180, now it's just normal behavior.)

So the textbook behavior was him pulling back when it was time to say goodbye, IMO because we had a good time and definitely did some "connecting" the previous couple of hours. Usually I get a hug and a kiss and tonight it was a simple hug in passing. Not a big deal, but I think I would have been bummed if I didn't know that they get close, pull back, get close, pull back. D6 was sad when I left though, and S5 was a terror once his Dad got home. I wonder if he sees his behavior changing or if it's just me. He's like temper tantrum king now where he used to be more relaxed.

That's it. I'm off to read but always feel better posting here.