It beats me! It was like reading some unknown language. I sure hope I don't come across to others the way he pictured me. Perhaps I over-reacted, but he has used some of those "adjectives" about me before, and said that it was all excuses.....and I am tired of it.

I know what is going on between these walls and I say that things are better and our life is moving forward. We both have health problems....as do a lot of people our age (and younger) but we go on and do the best we can. We are getting along good together. We have not had a fight since Feb. of last year when H found out about the OM. (How many couples can say they have not had a fight in a year?) He is trusting me again. So, I think things are progressing. I really don't know what some expect me to do. I know that a certain person was trying to give me "his" advice and I told him that I didn't like what he was suggesting and neither would my H and that I didn't think it would work for us.....but he would not accept that and kept pushing it and telling me that I just didn't want to do it. So, I got enough. Some people don't know how to accept "no" for an answer. Just b/c I didn't think that particular list of "assignments to do" would work my particular personality or my H's.....doesn't mean I would not look at something else offered. But, when it keeps going back to what you just refused, it's time to just forget it and move on.

I try to get along with everyone. I will listen to their advice. I appreciate the support that people here have given me and the encouragement. Even when they don't know what to advise, most of them are nice and urge me on. That helps a lot. And....I want to help in return. I truly hope I have help some younger couples from making mistakes and that perhaps my "maturity" was instrumental in some type of guidance for them.

I will not lie about it....it has been a tough year. Mostly the work I had to do on the inside of myself (as I have explained before). I may not be able to do a lot of "active" things (I guess would be the way to express it.), however, I think both my H and I have had to go through some "spiritual" healing between us. Hopefully, on the better days (physically speaking), we can enjoy doing things together. I've had several months in a row now that have been very hard on my health problems, but I always am hoping that a better day is around the corner and when it comes....we will take advantage of it!

Thank you for dropping in and saying what you did. It really helped my feelings a lot.

Sandi


It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!