I read this in one of conways books i think called when a mate walks out he said after we have done everything we could to save M, a confrontation isnt always a bad idea he says while it wont bring H back, it will help to get out some of our stuff we been holding back so we will feel better he also said, it usually pushes the WAS spouse further into their other world peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
I do not think that what we say or do changes their perspective.
If H wants to move farther away that is because he can't face the truth. I notice i no longer worry about what he does and maybe that is why I m speaking up.
H has been saying that I hated him and was angry.
I texted him last night that I wasnt hating him or angry. I just want the best for him and D7. Then I told him to have a happy easter.
H responded; Id rather u not text me. Keep ur well wishes to urself.
If I am no longer angry and hurt..then what am I?
D7 and I are going away this weekend. It will be fun.
hey! don't worry it's not you. i just had a similar situation today. i was trying to joke around and he took it the wrong way and assumed i was being bitchy. i told him to settle down b/c i was just joking (trying to keep things light!) and he begrudgingly said oh ok and we continued the very short phone conversation. the MLC is going to disagree or argue with everything you say right now. even if he doesn't really feel that way. i just learned to smile and move on. because essentially we are dealing with bratty 13 year old little boys...not real men.
Me: 31 H: 29 T: 10 yrs M: 4 1/2 yrs 01/08: MLC 03/17/08: H moved out no kids 3 dogs
