Thank you Bruce for your reply. I am sorry to know that you are also, like so many of us on this board, experiencing heartache and struggle inside. Thank you for empathizing and sharing some of your ideas with me. I must tell you I love the saying "the grass is greener where you water it"!! Thank you for this! What a lovely alternative to the other side of the proverbial fence.
Yes, there are things that would need to change within and for both of us for the relationship to work, you are right about that. I guess there may be some discomfort with what she learns about herself...I hadn't quite thought of it this way...more like she just feels guilty for hurting me but doesn't really miss me or want to re-engage. Guilt is not a good glue for holding things together in a relationship.
