CAGZ new YEAR - (meredith your 5 years motivated)

[cagzmom]

Maybe not all you want, but you let God take care of filling those needs, okay?

That is such a great reminder!! I get these daily divorce recovery thingys..they say stuff like that. Stuff about being ok being "alone" letting God do His stuff...LETTING God..that is a big one for me.

While it's tempting to stand there and wonder how it could have happened to us, it's a far better course of action to take action. Stop giving into the temptation of living inside our heads. (My worst trap)

Again I feel a connection to you...my mind ugh.. I guess it is kinda Bibilical..our mind is a battlefield. (Hey didn't Pat Benetar sing that?!!! )oh my oh my I am too funny.

"Without you, none of my happiness would be possible. Because you had the courage to do something, I had to change... and I will always be grateful to you for the lesson I had to learn. I'm sorry we all paid such a high price. But I appreciate it nonetheless."

Scarey as it seems I actually did thank H for this already..and I meant it. The things that have happened WITHIN me would have never had a chance if we were still together.

Try not to dwell on the pain your children feel.

Yes - focusing on the "negative" doesn't make things better.
will make them stronger as well--they will be able to discern

[quote]Cagz, some day your H will get to this point.

I know he will too. I dont know if he will ever let me know or let me see--- but he will. I have seen it with even my sister(long story) but my H loved his family...and he has already lost so much. So very very much.

In the end, we all get what we need. It undoubtedly does not mirror what anyone of us wanted, but as I've said before, we were dealt this hand and it's up to us to play it out. You are ALL DOING A GREAT JOB! Keep at it, and keep your eye to the future and envision the future that you want. You know what tasks will be necessary to make that vision come to reality. So commit to that. I swear you're going to all be here in 5 years telling some poor newcomer that they will be happy again. It may be a different kind of happy than you originally wanted, but God will give you the gift you need when you are ready to accept it.

I swear by this, folks. I honestly do.

That WILL BE A DAY OF CELEBRATING!!!