Need some hope

[Snow White]

Question? Has this technique seemed to work mostly for the men on the boards while DBing seems to work for the women? Or are the men just the most vocal about it? In my sitch my H's main complaint in the one productive counselling session we had was I am too controlling(which exposing the affair may be seen as by him), maybe a lot of the men's wives found them too complacent and exposing was the opposite of that.