Guess I never mentioned before that W's whole family knows... I talked with her dad one day in confidence about what to do (he is a MC for his church). He must have told W's mother, who told W's sister and... well by now the whole family knows and is upset with W. That really PO'd W. Not a great move on my part, but her family is trying to support our M the best they can. They also want W to make her own decision, so they told her they don't approve but it's not their decision.