Kalni, My H also doesn't talk about our R. Once when I brought it up he said we were getting along better but he still didn't want to work on the M. Two weeks ago when I brought up that I would be willing to do MC he said he need to get his stuff together first.
I understand your S's confusing. Bless his heart. I know my Ds think things are better and getting back to normal. Last night was night 11 of H staying at the house. This morning all four of us were in my bedroom talking. It was as if we were a "real" family. I want to ask H WTF are you doing and when are you going to pull the rug out again?
Just checking in.. how is your little guy doing today?? This stuff is so hard on the kids but if the end result are families reuniting into something stronger I think it's worth it.
I was just reading your thread K, and saw that you and H haven't had any OR talks since the bomb and him leaving. That is so hard on you, but I think I read somewhere that the LBS is the last person with whom the walkaway will reconnect, especially if they're going through some kind of life crisis.
I haven't had an OR talk with my H since the first week of November, and then it was too emotionally charged to sort anything out (mainly my fault). But one day my prince will come (or at least an OR talk my H initiates), and I know yours will too.
Intrigued by the post about who isn't OK. I hope S is alright- so hard on the kids, this sitch.
(((K)))
L.xx
Walk on, walk on, with hope in your heart. And you'll never walk alone.