With all those things considered would you still say that it's a good idea to cut HER off?
I don't believe anyone is suggesting that you cut her off completely. I think what's been said is to lessen your availability to her. Stop taking every call and responding to every e-mail, etc, etc. Except some but NOT all invitations. If you want to 'win her over', she has to miss you and know what it's like to not always have you there. She KNOWS you will get together with her whenever she presents the opportunity, the same way she KNOWS that she can still talk to and see OM anytime she wants. No one is making her see or feel the consequences of her choices; Plain and simple - you and OM are enabling her behavior and this A.
Mmmm, gotta love that yummy cake.
With all due respect, this is your sitch. Your M. If you feel this is the right way to go, then that is your decision, and we all respect that. No one is here to tell you what to do. We can only offer advice and give you our opinions based on our experiences. Take from it what you will.
Just know that you will need a lot of time and an overabundance of patience to get through this. We all must remember this.
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
