JAK - sorry if you've mentioned this and I don't remember, but has he read/heard the 5LL? I wonder if it might click with him. If he's not a big "reader" there's an audio version of it available. Maybe next time he says he's sorry you can say "Hey I found this great book/CD..." ?

As for the 180s - I'm thinking not so much "more GAL'ing" but more 180s, doing something different. What do you "always" or "never" do that would be different, fun for you, and maybe catch his attention a little bit?

I'm trying to think of examples, but don't know you or your "routine" enough. One of my 180s was really focusing on having a PMA since I had been depressed for a long time. Other little ones were keeping my nails manicured, styling my hair every day, new and much trendier clothes, spontaneously talking to people more (i.e. strike up a conversation in the grocery store line..). Larger one was trading in the boring sedan for a convertible Mustang (and even without researching it to death).. obviously that one's a little costlier. ;\)

Some of those probably won't have much impact on H but doing something different like that tends to make me feel a little better and less "trapped" - might be a good time for that for you, as well?

Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7
Bomb 1 10/07/06
Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15
Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07
Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate
2/08 slowly improving
7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!)
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