OK... So I have been looking good, smelling good, GAL, etc. I have been doing it for myself and W has noticed... but if I don't see her then how is she supposed to catch on to these positive changes in me? I guess we're to a point where she knows I'm changing for the better, so if I cut down on the contact with her then it probably doesn't matter if she sees me or not.
Does it matter that we are separated, D is very much on the table, and before I started DB'ing she asked me not to speak with her for about 3 months? She all but handed me the papers before I started making positive changes. With all those things considered would you still say that it's a good idea to cut HER off? I fear if I do that she'll just run off with OM. At least what is happening now gives me the opportunity to win her over.
DB says to do what appears to be working. This is working as far as re-establishing the connection in our R and I feel like this still needs to be worked on. If I start getting uptight with her I see it as a step backward, because then we can't continue progressing with our R. At some point OM needs to be addressed, but I think it's too early for that. This is just what feels like the right thing to do at the moment... then again I don't know for sure what the right move to make is. That's why I'm here.
