Help me act AS IF, Thread 4

[AliSuddenly]

Hey LMG, I read your thread, but I am not sure if I posted before and forgive me if I forget some of your deatils... are you having counselling? I know you said that this possible D is bringing up alot of abandonment issues for you and I am sure that that must be very hard to cope with. You are vunerable because of your past and it is hard lessons right now. There are alot of people on these boards whose partners dropped the IDLYA bomb around Oct/Nov last year (me included). Its like there was this seismic shift in humanity and we are all being put through the wringer, having to learn these hard lessons.

I'm struggling too, but try and remember that no matter how hard it is, its what needs to happen (the reasons arent clear yet, but they will become so I am sure eventually!) and it wont be as hard as this ever again. It is a really really difficult time in your life, so get all the help that you can (I am seeing 2 counellors, as it is free, and I dont even have kids to worry about!) Also..worrying, I know its hard but try not to worry abut everything all at once, just break it down inot chunks.. for example you cant worry about all this AND the effect of going to a new school on your D. Just try and get through this one day at a time and tackle today and how you are going to handle things with your H.

It doesnt seem a clean break to me, he sounds a typical MLCer, so perhaps you should let him go...give him space and he may come back??

Thinking of you,
Ali x
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Me: 37
H: 34
T: 9 years
ILYBINILWY: 2 Nov 07
Own apartment: 26 Jan 08
Depression confirmed!