Sox, My W is frustrated with the way that I help also. Her agenda is for me not to create extra work for her. I think I'm helping in my own way, but I'm unwittingly making extra work for her.
It seems like a communication issue. I have to listen and learn what is the best way to help her with housecleaning and other issues. This will take some time to work thru because it's a charged issue, and my W reads other issues into it.
Part of the problem is also personal differences regarding cleaning standards, differences in priorities, and differences in work habits. In some ways there is no resolution, because I can't become my W.
My W and I have never really created a partnership regarding housecleaning. It's like being newlyweds around this issue. I'd like to think there can be some partnership around this issue.
We may end up hiring a cleaning person at some point.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
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