Mixed Signals - version ? who's counting

[sandycay]

CF,

I too am on the journey of mixed signals. I have only been at this for 2 months. I really can't fathom 18 months of these feelings. My S loves the other woman. Truly and deeply, but doesn't say he wants a divorce. Instead he keeps me in our beautiful home raising our two kids and comes over every day to spend time with them. (except when OW was in town)I guess I am a really expensive nanny at this point. He works out of town mostly and can be gone for up to a month at a time. He is also paying for me to go back to school as I have been a stay at home mom for years. There has never been mean or spiteful behavior from either of us. All of my friends say I should legally seperate from him as he is saying he will give me everything. They say he will change his tune in the future. I am confused as to what to do.

I too, have not gone through the anger phase. Let me know if that book helps you out. Right now, I am just fearful for my future. I have no retirement, no job, etc...