Sad but true story: I have an aunt. wonderful woman. kind, Christian... Her husband separated from her, because of a fight over his doubts of her in a particular area. She lived as a separated (non-dating, faithful) woman, until he died. for 20 years.
Sad for her... but very inspiring for me, both from the perspective of, "it is doable", and also inspiring by the results that it had in her life. She missed out on having a loving spouse with her... but she has children who love her (and come visit her frequently), and good friends who love and respect her. She has a good life. It's not the life she probably would have chosen, if she had HER way. But she chose God's way. And through Him.. she had a good life of His choosing.
An excellent example of, "Do the right thing, and then take your happiness from knowing you are doing good", , over "Do whatever you feel like doing, and then try to convince yourself that what you want to do, is also 'the right thing to do'"
Dom R,
I appreciate your aunt's stance....
However, some people are fine without a mate.... They have an unhealthy focus on their children (like my aunt - still focused on her "boys" living at home (44 and 52 years old)).... Others have no desire for a spouse to have a physical relationship (see my aunt again).... It depends upon the person...
While others will not remarry.... They will engage in various types of sexual sins (premarital sex, pornography, masturbation, etc.)....
When your spouse leaves, divorces you and has a sexual relationship with another, I think it preferable for one to look for another spouse. This is not the idealogical theologian in me. Rather, it is the practical view.
No_More_Dodo
Last edited by No_More_Dodo; 03/19/0806:34 PM.
"Chains do not hold a marriage together. It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads which sew people together through the years. That is what makes a marriage last --more than passion or even sex!" - Simone Signoret
