(((Jeff)))

I think C is a good idea, too. I started going a couple of months ago and was just about to quit because it just seemed to be more of a weekly b*tch session than therapy and I can b*tch to my friends. But the last two weeks have given me some small thoughtful breakthroughs that are about ME, not about US. She does help with US, but I need to work on me for a while because I'm always going to be around here.

I also agree that you need to find some 180s. Exercise is a good one, it makes you feel better if that's all. It's done wonders for me. As I said on my thread, I've always been small and petite and while I had gained a few pounds, it was really just a few pounds and not a big deal; I was still a slim person and didn't find the "need" to be healthier. However, now that I've dropped a fair amount of fat and flab and strengthen my body and heart, I'm loving it. I feel good just sitting in the car without the roll by the seat belt. When I run up the stairs and nothing giggles, it feels great. Now that I'm weightlifting and developing definition, I love the shape of my arms. When I can run with my kids and not get breathless, it's a small slice of heaven. I know it's affected me in other ways, too.

Just a thought.


Me: 42/H: 37
T: 10 years/M: 8
D9, S8
Bomb: 7.23.07
Separated: 1.20.08
D Final 3.19.09
Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09

My life is good.