[/quote]I do think it's time for a shake up, but maybe take separation off the table for awhile. I think that makes it harder to come up with creative ideas - it becomes easier to look at your "escape route." (at least, that's been true for me).
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CL,
Thats what im'e afraid of is that I am thinking of an out intsead of holding my position so to speak because im'e tired of not feeling loved. It has been three years since the start of this and it is feeling like it has been too long.
I do think he loves me as he says but, not the deep love that spouses should have for one another as far as emotional connection.
I have started a second part time job to help pay off some debt sooner and to do extras. I also thought it would get me out of the house and away from H more. It also gives him more time to think I hope.
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What he's missing is that HE needs to step up and make YOU feel loved and taken care of.[quote]
Thats just it he says he's sorry that he hasn't been able too. My fear is that he is just waiting for the light bulb to turn on and it may be a long wait.
as far as the 180's I could go out more but, I am gone so much now I will have to figure that one out. I thnk I will step up walking and do it alone without asking him (just leave) and im'e thinking of hitting the library after work on my one job days.
Any one have any suggestions.
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
