She's Gone - No Contact (Part 2)

[Just_Me]

Kin,

In some ways all long term relationships are similar, but consider for a minute that this is your GF, not your wife, and there isn't even legalities to attend to. Surely there have been times you've broken up with girlfriends in the past or been broken up with. Do you ever consider what they are doing, have changed, or want to try again? That's sometimes how it is with a girlfriend/boyfriend or girlfriend/girlfriend situation; you go your separate ways and never look back...even when it was longterm.
I can't read her mind, but her silence has given you clues that she sees it as over...any further efforts on your part will not be well received by her. I would suggest that you move forward as though this relationship is over. If she has second thoughts, she'll contact you...otherwise I wouldn't attempt more cards or other forms of contact. This may seem harsh. While it's true she won't see your changes, it may be equally true that she doesn't care if she sees any. If she wanted to know what's up with you, she'd get in contact with you. Sorry to be so blunt. Move forward with your life, and that may include dating when you are ready. You can't make her want to try again...so you pretty much have to be pleasantly surprised if she does (and you are still open to the thought).

I know this is advice you have received from people that aren't on this board...that anyone else would give you, but it still holds. The only thing you can do is get your own life in order and fulfilling as possible. Answer me honestly, if the roles were reversed and your partner was holding on desperately from afar, their life on hold and incomplete without you, would you find that attractive? I sense that your life is on hold while you wait for her. It can't be. You need a life that she would be crazy not to want to share with you.