I asked him what he needed to feel loved and taken care of and he said that I have done so much that there isn't anything need to do.
I think this is the key point.. you've done everything you need to do. What he's missing is that HE needs to step up and make YOU feel loved and taken care of.
I do think it's time for a shake up, but maybe take separation off the table for awhile. I think that makes it harder to come up with creative ideas - it becomes easier to look at your "escape route." (at least, that's been true for me).
I know you've worked so hard and done so many 180s - what are some other ones you could do? What would he expect from you over the next, say, week, and what could you do differently?
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
