Illuminata, This post has been very helpful. Your points are right on the money.
This will help me to stretch myself further in my efforts. I've done well at emotional management and not making things worse. I've been too guarded though, and need to be more present in the M. I guess this is the Act As If approach talked about in Divorce Remedy.
The struggle as you say is to live in the present, and transform anger and resentment so that it doesn't poison the healing process. It's a constant practice. I like to use breathing approaches to keep myself centered, and from ruminating too long in negative emotions.
You are right to suggest that we not put too much weight on looking for apologies, or security in actions such as sex. I fret about our sex life being dormant, but think, as you suggest, that it will return when it's time.
Thanks so much. This post will help a lot of Piecers stay on-track and regain their balance again and again.
We Piecers have to remember that healing is happening right under our noses, and that we need to not hinder it's slow process.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
