I know it is difficult to lose your best friend. I have a lot of those days myself. Your friends are noticing and she will too if she hasn't already. When I feel like giving up I remind myself of my goals, the alternative to not trying, look at the positive and try to dismiss the negative, and post on the boards a frequently. The support I get here helps get me back on track. Self talk and prayer has helped me tremendously. I tell myself I can not control his actions, to have patience and I am fighting for my marriage. DBing has helped me become the person I want to be and the person my husband wants me to be and I am already a much happier person for it.
It the begining it is very frustrating, but the sooner you can detach yourself from your spouses actions the easier it gets. Keep on keeping on. Stay strong and know that we are here to support you. I give you a lot of credit for dedicating yourself you saving your marriage.
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