These are all pushed neatly under the rug for THEM.
That is very true.
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Some of us have become walking doormats, others are afraid to make a move in case it goes against dbusting rules. We let our spouses go have affairs while we patiently wait here for them to emerge. Some do. But what do we have when they do? Lots of mistrust that they will do it again.
And this is also very true.
Ok so we pretend everything is ok when we are hurting..No wonder I have breakdowns. I am not being honest with myself.
Peace, I too,like to vent to my friends. They sometimes tell me why dont you tell him this.
And why didn't I? I was afraid to tell him anything in case he got MORE upset..well guess what..me keeping my mouth closed hasnt done a thing in this situation.
Last night H and I had a few texts. Basically I have been calling him out on things.
H said that the verbal beating he received was..get this.."Vicious and Hurtful"
I told him it wasnt directed at him and these three years were vicious and hurtful .
I also told him I was being straight forward not trying to hurt him. And , honestly, everything I said was how I felt about everything. Not an attack on him. So it is crazy when I do voice myself it is considered
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vicious and hurtful.
That word "vicious" stuck by me. If my words are vicious what are his actions then???
