WAW's PA over, but still wants Divorce

[Hope4us]

Thanks Doing, I was thinking of moving my thread over to Infidelity, but I'm not sure how to link this one. maybe someone can help me with that.

Anyway, Has W given up OM for sure? I guess there's no way I'll know for sure as their main communication tool (after I busted her on the cell phone use) is work email/phone/IM. We both work for the same company and OM is a contractor that works for us, but at a location ~250 miles away. They met when he was working in our location, but he moved in Aug.

I haven't explained the sitch as to why I'm pretty confident it's over for good. Here I go.....

After exposure to OMW, OM went crying back to her. From OMW I discovered he's had 4-5 affairs that she knows about. Each time he comes running back when it's exposed/she discovers them. OM and OMW live 1000 miles apart as he moves from job to job every couple years and she maintains the "home". Anyway, right after exposure WW was very depressed which I assumed was because OM ended it. About 2 weeks later her mood changed for the better. I figured out later that there had been contact. A week later WW got up early on a Sat morning, did all her affair primping (including her victoria's secret best) and took off for the day. I immediately called OMW who then busted OM on him and WW getting together. He denied it, but when WW got home that night it was like exposure night all over again. She had driven to meet him at a casino half way between where we live and he lives.
I'm assuming WW told OM they could get together "one last time" and OMW and myself would never know. Guess again. I think that day was probably a last attempt by WW to keep it going. I had seen text messages etc that they had shared that talked about making each other happy forever, blah, blah, blah and I don't think WW was getting that he was using her and it was over....

OMW told OM that day that she was filing for divorce. OM started doing everything in his power to get her to not file. I let WW know that OM was doing everything he could to get back with his wife. Thought she's get it that he was using her and she'd figure things out.

Over the next 3 weeks or so, WW was really down. I took this to mean that OM told her it was over. Then one day after talking to OMW I let it slip that she was still going to file for divorce. I'm sure there was some contact between OM and WW after that conversation.

So for the next 3 weeks WW was as mean and nasty to me as she could be. I'm assuming there was ongoing contact with OM so in case he did divorce she would run to him. So at that point I used my ace in the hole as far as exposure goes.

WW has a non-curable STD. She picked it up in a relationship prior to our marriage. Never bothered me much as I KNEW I wasn't going to be with anyone else for the rest of my life, so if I caught it from her, no big deal. But I KNEW there was no way she would have told OM about it, so.....I told OMW and she told OM and OM.....well, judging by WW's scream fest, OM must have let her have it. It was like exposure to OMW night all over again. WW: "I WANT A DIVORCE" "YOU STUCK A KNIFE INTO MY CORE" "I'LL NEVER GIVE YOU A CHANCE", "WHY WOULD YOU TELL OMW, I ALREADY TOLD OM"? BLAH BLAH, BLAH. I said "if you already told OM, why are you so angry about him finding out? That took the wind out of her sails.

But the funny thing is, since that night WW has changed. You can read in my previous posts what's gone on since that night so no need to repost it here, but that's pretty much the reason I'm pretty confident it's over, and I'm assuming no contact is happening between them. Oh, and OMW has said OM is doing everything she's asked and they are trying to make their marriage work..AGAIN. Personally I think she's nuts, but hey, works better for me. So OM and wife are working on their marriage and (judging by her reaction) OM ripped on WW for the STD and WW's attitude since that night all lead me to believe the affair is over.

I agree her contacting OM would be bad. I think there might have been a point about 3 weeks ago when she might have tried to contact him but got rebuffed. She had really begun re-engaging with me and after a really good night at home, the next night it was like right back to withdrawal. I wonder if she got scared of how we were progressing and contacted him and he blew her off because about 3 days later she started responding to me again.

About a month ago I really began GAL and taking the attitude that I'm going to enjoy my life, with or without her. And that seems to be when she really started taking notice and responding to me.

Sorry this is so long.