Just read your thread. Sorry you haven't gotten more responses. I think the Infidelity forum gets more responses. Maybe you can post over there?
Sounds like you are doing good. We are indeed in similar situations.
Sounds like your W has given up the OM. Question: how do you know that for sure? Do you have any way of confirming that? What was the main ways your W and OM communicated? I am just asking b/c it sounds like you are making progress and I would hate for contact to be made with OM, and then all the progress is lost.
I think you should keep doing what you are doing. NO expectations of her. By being a better you, by being more confident, you are much more attractive to her. She is realizing what she had in you, and what a great husband/dad/etc. you have been and can be.
