Joie, see this is exactly how I feel..Paranoia..I have been feeling this way for about 7 weeks now. I have to stop. It helps to know so many others are going through the same thing.
Me: 36 H: 34 2 D's: 10+13 Married: 13 yrs(Together 15) Found out about A-Jan 08 Finally ended April 08..I hope?? Struggling to co-exist in peace
I hopped in a taxi, and we took off for Grand Central Station. We were driving in the right lane when, all of a sudden, a black car jumped out of a parking space right in front of us. My taxi driver slammed on his breaks, skidded, and missed the other car's back end by just inches!
The driver of the other car, the guy who almost caused a big accident, whipped his head around and he started yelling bad words at us.
My taxi driver just smiled and waved at the guy. And I mean, he was friendly. So, I said, 'Why did you just do that? This guy almost ruined your car and sent us to the hospital!'
And this is when my taxi driver told me what I now call, 'The Law of the Garbage Truck.'
Many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full of garbage, full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment. As their garbage piles up, they need a place to dump it.
And if you let them, they'll dump it on you. When someone wants to dump on you, don't take it personally.
You just smile, wave, wish them well, and move on. You'll be happy you did.
I just saw this post in Newcomers, a forum I don't get to much. But this is great, a collection of quotes from posters in DB and it is truly inspirational. Enjoy!
LWB, Things are pretty 'normal' at home. So normal it's sort of scary. We're truly piecing, but with the legal sitch still looming, I'm not 100% sure we're there yet so I'm being cautious. There is a status hearing this week -- at least there is supposed to be. There was one a couple of weeks ago and the prosecutor didn't bother to show up! It's almost been 9 months. Unbelievable.
OW is quiet these days. I mentioned it to H a few days ago and he said it's because she's cut down on her drinking. I know he still talks to her, but the last time I checked his phone (which is VERY rare these days) he only had one call from or to her in 3 days. But he has another phone he usually calls her from so I'm sure it has more activity with her. But, I don't see that phone much. He leaves it in his van (another good sign). And he's home all of the time now. So, overall, pretty positive.
Thanks Dr. Love... I was out of town yesterday and just got back to work so perhaps later this week.
LO, great to hear from you, too! I sure hope he will kick her to the curb. I will cross that bridge when I can. He made a comment to me over late last summer that they would always be friends. I told him that was not acceptable to me. He didn't understand... duh.
